Ordering Your Gown

There are plenty of sites out there that will give you an estimate of when it’s best to order your wedding gown or bridesmaid dresses. I’ll do one better and not only give you the timeframe but also a peek into the behind-the-scenes order process so you can be better equipped to place your order with a certain level of knowledge that may help you avoid any misunderstandings. I understand the anxiety that brides go through during the long wait and perhaps this is simply due to the fact that the whole procedure has never been fully explained before. In part, my purpose in creating this blog is to bring helpful information to every bride and help smooth the lines of communication between a bride and her bridal salon.More...


Ordering in advance
Unless ordering from a huge chain manufacturer like David’s Bridal, gowns purchased though private boutiques will be made specifically for you once the factory receives the order. Because these dresses are not mass-produced but made individually there is a rather long gap between ordering the dress and receiving the dress. There are thousands upon thousands of brides (and bridesmaids) all purchasing dresses from different individual stores but the same companies, which means larger manufacturers are dealing with orders from all over the world on a massive scale. When your order is placed it’s put in a queue of sorts, the specifics of which vary a little from company to company, but generally is not necessarily on a first-come-first-serve basis. There can be many factors in determining how your order is placed in the queue, the most important being the wedding/wear date. I don’t wish to cause undo concern or confusion so I will give you an example of a fairly common occurrence; Bride #1 is well prepared, falls in love with a gown and places the order six months before the date of the wedding. She is given a ship date of around 4 months by her sales associate and the order is placed and sent to the factory.
Three months go by. Bride #2, who wasn’t aware of the timeframe and doesn’t have the six-month lead before her wedding, purchases the same dress/color/size as Bride#1. She has to put a rush cut shipping cost on the dress to ensure it will come in time but the associate confirms that it will ship before the wedding. The order goes through as a priority to the factory, pushing it quickly through the queue production to make the ship date. Because the factory can’t allow a disruption to the dresses currently in production due to this one order, the system will show dresses already made that match the specifications of the priority order. The manufacturer finds the dress for Bride #1, which is ready to go but shows there is still another three months before the wear date. The factory will send the dress to fulfill the rush order for Bride #2 and simply make a new dress for Bride #1 because she has the time, but this adds another month unexpectedly to the shipping time. All this is done without notification to the salon and thus without the bride fully understanding anything beyond the fact that the dress is late.

Every manufacturer will have a slightly different ‘purchase to package’ timeframe ranging anywhere from eight weeks to twenty-four weeks. Most bridal salons will cover all possibilities with a blanket period of around six months if not more. This is not necessarily a sales tactic to try and get you to purchase that day but more a guide to ensure a stress-free transition from the actual sale to your first alterations appointment with dress in hand. This creates less worry for the bride as well as the salon associates because everything will be done with time to spare. Bridal associates want to ensure the best possible experience at their store which includes making sure you have all your merchandise well before the date you need it. As difficult as these restrictions are for any woman who wants to take the time to shop, remember that the deadlines exist for your protection as well as for the safety of the reputation of the store.

Just Checking Up
It’s OK to keep calling the store to check on the status of your order but keep in mind that these shops are given fairly limited information from the manufacturer and may not be able to provide a satisfactory answer on the spot. The majority of bridal salons are simply the avenues through which these orders are sent to the factory, meaning they don’t have access to any specific information beyond confirmation of the order and an estimated time of arrival. Once the order is placed and set, there is little control that the consultant has over that order which is why it can very rarely be changed, canceled or checked on. Once placed with the manufacturer, the request is faxed or emailed to the factory (usually overseas, so there can be gaps in communication due to time differences) and is then put through the process of being cut and created. There is no set window of time for the entire process, no precise timeframe that can be given upon ordering which tends to concern the bride while placing the order. Rest assured, this is normal and unfortunately cannot be narrowed down by the shop associates.

Shipping
As mentioned before, most dresses are made overseas which can sometimes lead to delays in shipping time. When a gown is purchased, the bridal salon will typically give a two-week or more window of time as an estimated time of arrival providing a cushion of time that encompasses many potential delays. Most orders are shipped via containers on a ship versus air to keep costs down but because of this there can be delays due to weather or random selection through customs detaining the entire container for some time. It is important to keep all these factors in mind while nervously awaiting the arrival of your gown and refrain from anger or concern when the salon cannot give specific dates or tracking numbers. This is not an attempt to be sly or misleading, they simply don’t know and cannot give precise details until the shipment has been through customs and put on a UPS/FedEx/ Speedy truck with computerized tracking numbers


Get It Done
I promise, this isn’t meant from a saleswoman point of view but more common sense. If you love the dress and you want to buy the dress, why wait? Trust me when I say you don’t want any issues when it comes to something as intrinsic as the wedding clothes. Get it ordered, get it done! Not only will you be spared the nagging worry in the back of your mind but you’ll also feel a sense of accomplishment.
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The Posse

You just breezed out of the dressing room in an absolutely drop-dead- gorgeous silk charmeuse Vera Wang knock-off. The sleek fabric gives a sway to your hips as you make your way to the mirror, smiling as you say to yourself “this is the one – I LOVE it!” There are gasps and murmurings behind you and as you strike a model pose so you can make sure your backside looks as good as the front in the figure-flattering mermaid cut. You turn to the cluster of family and friends to bask in their admiration and approval only to find that most are shaking their heads in disgust. Grandma makes a face and declares the lace A-line was MUCH prettier to which Aunt Cathy agrees and adds her thoughts about how uncomfortable the dress looks. Your older sister Jenny, who never really understood your evolved sense of style, loudly expresses her distaste for how tight fitting and see through the fabric is. Cousin Beth likes it well enough but reminds you that you have only been to 5 shops and when she got married she went to at least 10 before finding “the one”. Your 6 bridesmaids are still talking amongst themselves but you gather the vote is not good and Mom has a strained look on her face as she says for the fourth time that day that she loves it if YOU love it. You are close to tears but dutifully return to the dressing room to try on the rack of overly-beaded polyester gowns Jenny picked out for you.
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Over-exaggerated as this scenario may be, some of you may be facing a similar fate on a smaller scale or for others maybe this was pretty much right on track. There is a very delicate line that all brides must walk during the pre-wedding shopping and of course every single person who is close to you will have an opinion that more than likely will clash horribly with your own. The bridezilla bully is probably the most popular defense tactic as well the most well known followed closely by the stick-your-head-in-the -sand maneuver. That fine line is a difficult place to be for any blushing bride but aside from screaming “MY DAY, MY WAY” every five minutes, you have the obligation to be as gracious with your family and friends as you are firm. Never allow your own vision to be overrun by the expectations of others. Of course this mantra must be molded to the individual family dynamics and one should never be so rigid in their planning that there is no room for compromise.

In my years as a bridal consultant there are a couple tips I tell every bride whether they are planning on an extended family shopping experience or just their closest friends. I hope you find these helpful!


• Do YOU even know what you are looking for?
Do your research before dragging a dozen people to busy bridal shops where the consultants looks on helplessly as all twelve ladies emerge with armloads of wedding gowns you would never have picked out yourself.

• Do some undercover work.
Once you find the shops in your area that carry the designs you like don’t be afraid to go on your own or with you favorite shopping buddy. It is imperative to have clarity of what your own thoughts are regarding certain cuts, styles, and fabrics. If your initial dress shopping experience is free from the influence of others you have less chance of buyers remorse later.

• Try them on!
You might be very surprised when that backless halter style you have been eying in the magazine does not give you the illusion of bustiness you were hoping for. Find out what looks good on your shape and have a working knowledge of the styles that will create the look you are going for and the ones that definitely will not.

• Be specific
Have a pre-shopping meeting detailing your particular style do’s and don’ts. Bring pictures, style numbers, sketches or whatever works for you.

• Pre-approved
Have a couple dresses picked out that you have already tried on and decided on as possible purchasables and show the family only those dresses. They will appreciate that they are in on the final say and you might be surprised at how quick to approve women are if they know already that you love the dress. It’s the open-ended dress shoppers that invite negative evaluations because there might be a “better one” out there.


Did you have an experience like this? Do you have helpful tips for others?
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